This is a Guest Post from a friend of mine that has recently been trying to change his lifestyle for the better.
Feeling overused and stressed out by your daily routine? Whenever you hear this question on TV, you are usually recommended to get a particular medication. However, the truth is that you do not necessarily need drugs and chemicals to miraculously change your life. Such things do occur out of nowhere though. You would love to avoid traffic, mortgage rates and annoying bosses. Instead, you want your life to be immaculate, with no issues. Does it sound impossible to get there? To some people, it does. Those are the ones who always feel negative.
These people will never manage to overcome a particular moment in their lives. Negativity is one of the things that keep them back. They waste hours thinking about others, gossiping and blaming stuff, without realizing that they are the only ones responsible for fixing their problems. They never even try to see things from a different direction. They never do anything to improve their lives, yet they hope for the best. Unfortunately, chances are they will never even get to start. Their lives will be miserable. They will never have enough money to go on vacation and they will never have too many friends, only because of their attitude. These type of people never want to go anywhere, never want to do anything. One way to stop negativity is to start saying “yes”.
Things are not as hard as they might seem. In fact, they are quite simple if you only make a few changes. As long as you truly want to do it, you can. The key is to take it slowly. Complete one phase at a time. Begin with small things. Small goals lead to large goals. Keep calm and be positive. These are probably the most important things in life. When you develop a positive attitude, you will inevitably start doing things in a positive manner. Negativism attracts bad things, while positivism attracts success and good results in the long run.
First Thing – Stop complaining, drama queen!
Think about the last time you complained. What happened after? Who did you complain to? Did you solve the problem? Exactly! Complaining is a time killer, but it does not solve problems. The situation is even more severe because instead of focusing on solving it, you focus on making it look even harsher. Besides, you aggravate it. It looks more negative than ever. Complain some more and it will look even darker. Unfortunately, some people complain about everything. You probably have a few such friends too. Those are the negative individuals who never manage to solve their problems.
Complaining goes even further though. Think about people who complain all the time. At some point, they become irritating. You try to help them out with a couple of good tips, but sooner or later, you start avoiding them. If you count yourself in this category, you better stop doing it right now. This is a vicious circle, so you have to stop crying on others’ shoulders out of dumb reasons. Life might look complicated, but seeing the full half of the glass will work a long way. Things will improve in no time.
Start waking up early
Aristotle was one of the most important and enlightened philosophers. He released a lot of theories regarding the connection between sleep and personal development. He used to say that waking up before the sunshine will bring wisdom, health and wealth. You do not have to be a genius to observe that though. People who wake up early are more productive, better organized and a lot more optimistic. This is not just an assumption or a trend. It was clinically researched and proven. The benefits are obvious from the first day.
Waking up early allows you to enjoy more hours. You no longer need to complain about the so called lack of time. After all, everyone has time, but this is a matter of priorities. Besides, what can be more enticing than starting a day your own way? Forget about waking up, having breakfast in 5 minutes, dressing up in 10 minutes and leaving for work. Instead, take your time, enjoy your favorite morning activities, have a coffee and exercise. There is no one else around to bother you, since everyone sleeps.
Not sure how to start? Forget about telling yourself that you want 5 more minutes and put the alarm clock somewhere far – ideally, on the wardrobe. This way, you have to “workout” a little to pick it up by getting a chair and climbing on it. There is just no better way to ensure that you will actually wake up.
Seeing life in black and white? Hello, 1920!
Life is supposed to be full of color. Seven out of ten people see it in black and white. Whose fault is it? Definitely not yours. People can be as positive or negative as they want to. It is a matter of personal choices. Osho once said that life is almost perfect. It is, indeed, great. You do not have to win the lottery or end up with a model in your bed. A perfect job or a perfect relationship do not exist. Actually, they do, but only in your imagination. The real challenge is to know how to take advantage and enjoy the things you have and know. Set some goals, chase them and keep advancing, but keep in mind that perfection cannot be defined.
If you see your life in black and white, you probably live by an old fashioned concept – all or nothing. The bad news is that you cannot have all. Therefore, you will have nothing. It does not take too much to understand this concept. On the other hand, changing your perception over life is all about asking yourself to do it. Accept things, train yourself to stop dreaming about perfection and appreciate small elements around your life. This is only an exercise, but it will work wonders overtime. In a world where everything is possible, there is just no reason to be negative.
Push your brain further
A lot of people take supplements for muscular growth, detoxification and so on. They have become an actual trend these days, so they are everywhere. But how about taking supplements to boost your brain instead? After all, there is no point to have muscles if you are dumb. You only become part of a stereotype – big muscles, little brain. Boosting your mental function is probably a lot more important than boosting your muscles. It will take you further in life, but it will also add to your productivity, satisfaction, motivation and success. Nootropics are brain related supplements. They act in a few different ways, depending on what you actually need help with. Keep in mind that many are using nootropics to get a mental edge, the following article poses the question are smart drugs driving silicon valley, and presents one perspective with regard to nootropics.
Nootropics represent a particular class of brain supplements. They will boost the focus, memory, learning capability, mood, motivation and cognition. They also maintain the overall brain health in the best shape. Plenty of people out there rely on nootropics for all kinds of purposes, but then, the general goal is the same – enhancing the brainpower. Have you seen Bradley Cooper in “Limitless”? Nootropics are pretty much the same, only they are legal and they do not turn you into a genius overnight.
Having meals in a rush? Break this bad habit!
In a hectic world where no one has time for nothing, most people have no clue how to enjoy small pleasures. They do not even care about them anyway. Eating is one of these things. A couple of decades ago, people used to spend an hour having lunch or dinner. Elders still do, since they maintain their old traditions. But young adults can have a meal in less than 5 minutes. Sometimes, you may not even have the time to do it slower. Perhaps you need to get back to your office in 15 minutes. But with all these, you should still focus on your food. Enjoy every moment, every bite and every type of aroma.
Try to avoid temptations, especially since most of them are related to nothing but your work. You will get back there soon enough, so detach yourself from it for a few minutes. You may have some phone calls to make or perhaps you need to complete a project by the end of the day. Forget about them for 15 minutes. Just stick to your food. Chew slowly. There is just no better way to reduce stress and improve your efficiency. Besides, choosing slowly will also prevent the food from turning into fat. You do want to look good too, do not you?
Too much confidence in stereotypes? Come to the bright side!
Stereotypes go in the same category with conceptions and beliefs. Nothing is good, bad, positive or negative. There are no good people and there are no bad people. Good or bad days are only some concepts. Nothing (not even you or your kid) is good or bad. Everything is neutral. You have to learn to see things as empty entities, regardless of their colors, shapes, social classes and functions. Things become good or bad according to how you perceive them, but this is pretty much it.
Stereotypes only bring in negative effects over both parts. The one who stereotypes is not open minded at all, while the stereotyped individual becomes a victim. Most people who use stereotypes have a constant lack of confidence in those around them, as well as themselves. When you prosecute others, you unconsciously prosecute yourself as well. Open your soul and the world will most likely look a lot better. There are, indeed, a lot of people who may not raise to your expectations, but stereotypes will prevent you from meeting the ones who truly care too.
Break bad habits that cause addiction
Bad habits are those habits that cause addiction. There are plenty of them, but some of them are just more popular than others. Television is one of them. Have you ever seen a commercial for Lamborghini on TV? How about a commercial for a beach house in Cyprus? Exactly! Successful people do not watch TV. They might have some free time now and then, but they choose not to. This is one of the most intoxicating habits out there. It eats valuable time and creates fake illusions. With access to Internet, television should not even be a source of information.
Learn how to avoid wasting time with useless stuff that brings nothing. You got no personal development, happiness or money. Watching TV or chatting over social networks for five hours a day is not too productive. Instead, learn to do something durable and concise. Such things must be important to you and the ones around you. There is no point to waste your time with problems that will become irrelevant years later. Feeling overwhelmed? You are not the only one. Turn it off and experiment the unplugged lifestyle for a weekend. You will love it.
Floating between heart, emotions and rational mind
Sometimes, you do need to trust your emotions. In other cases, you can trust your heart. Your rational mind will not always go in the same direction, yet it is also worth a little attention. In fact, your rational mind is more important than actual emotions. Spontaneity and craziness have not killed anyone so far. With all these, it might look like a paradox, but following your heart is not always the way to go. When your heart relates to your feelings, things are under control, since feelings are assumed and voluntary. Emotions, on the other hand, are raw. They are often provoked by chemical reactions within the body.
Fury or anger makes an excellent example. It is a spontaneous reaction that you do not control, yet it will have devastating effects over you and those around you. Do not let such breakthroughs run your life or you will regret it.
As a short final conclusion, personal development is an easy venture, but not if you fail to respect a few simple rules. Impose them to yourself overtime and chances are you will get on track before you even realize it.